Reflections on Retirement: A Journey of Gratitude

Writing an article to celebrate my retirement has proven to be a challenge. How does one sum up a twenty-year journey filled with remarkable experiences, moments of sadness, miracles, and laughter? The answer, I have found, is simple: you say “Thank you.” Thank you, and thanks be to God. Gratitude is a beautiful gift, and it brings great joy.

My grandmother, who was a devout Methodist, instilled in me the belief that God is always present—in all things, places, and situations. Life is often messy, but God remains present in that messiness. She taught me to see the person, not the sin, and encouraged me to look for the face of Christ amid humanity’s imperfections. Her wisdom that accountability is the first step to a life of joy has shaped my journey. I am deeply grateful for her teachings and love.

I am forever thankful to Bishop Ohl for his inspiration and forward thinking. He called five of us to participate in sacramental priesthood, guided by the foundation of Total Ministry. We began with empty binders, dividers, a vision, and a call. We were blessed to be called from within our congregations and to be mentored by priests who served with relationship and community at heart. My church family at St. George’s and St. Peter’s and several small congregations, along with three nuns from St. Benedict’s Monastery in Canyon, nurtured me into the priest I have become. The sisters taught me how to be a priest; my church family and my roots taught me why I became one.

Hospitality lies at the heart of The Benedictine Rule of life, emphasizing the importance of welcoming every visitor as Christ. This practice requires humble service, prayer, and the recognition of Christ in all people, regardless of their status. Genuine presence and care are essential. The Prioress at St. Benedict’s, Sister Mary, taught me to value a prayerful life—morning, noon, evening, and at rest. Her reminder to pray unceasingly and to remember Acts 18:20-35 each day remains with me. Sister Marcella taught me the significance of Lectio Divina, the sacred study of the Word, and encouraged me to memorize Psalm 139 and always read the Psalms. Sister Hildegard continues to teach me “Ora et Labora,” the integration of spiritual devotion (prayer) and meaningful work (labor). These pillars form the foundation of a balanced and holy life, dedicated to seeking God in every daily task. “Laborare est orare”—to work is to pray—has shaped my calling as a priest, especially in small churches serving small communities.

Hospitality, as the core of The Benedictine Rule, calls us to welcome every visitor as Christ. This practice involves humble service, prayer, and recognizing Christ in all people. It is often messy but also filled with great joy.

I am grateful for my 12-step program, including both Alcoholics Anonymous and especially Al-Anon. These programs gave me the Serenity Prayer and the courage to speak the truth in love. They taught me that I cannot fix everything, but I can sit with others, listen, and offer support.

Finally, I extend my heartfelt thanks to the hundreds of people who have shown me how to love humanity, seeing each person as an image of our Creator. The many campers and hikers at Lake Meredith, Alibates National Monument, and Palo Duro Canyon whom I welcomed, taught, or toured; those in the field of archeology who taught me about roots and human patterns; and the children at Montessori House who revealed the uniqueness within each of us—all have contributed to my journey. I am so thankful and look forward to the gardens, nature and the adventures of many tomorrows with Christ centered in those relationships.

Let us pray:
Creator of all that is good, give us intellect to understand you,
reason to discern you; diligence to seek you;
wisdom to find you; a spirit to know you;
a heart to meditate upon you; ears to hear you; eyes to see you;
a tongue to proclaim you; a way of life pleasing to you;
patience to wait for you; and perseverance to look for you.
Grant us a perfect end, your holy presence.
A blessed resurrection, and life everlasting. Amen.
(St. Benedict)